#17: Creating a Loving Home with Deborah Farmer Kris

by | May 17, 2022 | Podcast

Parenting in the First 3 Years Podcast

creating a loving home podcast episode


Parenting in the First 3 Years Podcast

#17: Creating a Loving Home

with Deborah Farmer Kris


Showing our children that our love is not based on how “good” they are is an important part of creating a lasting bond between parent and child. Not only that, but it can actually help our children regulate their emotions better, and gives them the emotional intelligence needed to navigate tough feelings for the rest of their lives. But how can we best explain this concept to our young kids? And how can we use these principles of kindness and positive language to lift ourselves up as parents?

Deborah Farmer Kris podcast guest

In this episode, I talk to child development expert and author Deborah Farmer Kris about how we can create a home where our children know they’re loved unconditionally, while also showing ourselves the same compassion.

Founder of Parenthood365, Deborah works as a parenting columnist and consultant for PBS KIDS, writes about child development for NPR’s MindShift, and is the author of the “All the Time” picture book series. Her work has also been featured in The Washington Post, Boston Globe Magazine, and Oprah Daily.

Here’s a glance at this episode…

  • [02:17] Loving your kids at their best and worst
  • [04:56] How to handle changing emotions in the first 3 years
  • [07:13] Are you an emotions judge or an emotions scientist?
  • [12:28] Silencing your inner critic as a parent
  • [15:38] Reparenting ourselves through positive language
  • [18:49] Noticing your feelings and what triggers them
  • [20:56] How Deborah’s book, I Love You All the Time, is great for early literacy

Listen now!

i love you all the time book by deborah farmer kris

Click here to purchase Deborah’s book, I Love You All the Time, or check out the other books in her All the Time series.

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One last thing. I spend time each morning in meditation and would love to pray for you, your child or whatever’s on your heart. Simply email me and let me know how to pray. It can be as simple just your name or you can give a short explanation. Either way you can trust that I will do it. It’s a simple, quiet way for us to connect and for me to support you on your parenting journey. 🧡




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